In this episode of ‘A Guy’s Perspective,’ our hosts dive into the importance of communication in various aspects of life. From personal relationships to workplace dynamics, they explore how effective communication can lead to greater success and fulfillment. Join the conversation on navigating language barriers, mastering non-verbal cues, and the crucial role of grammar in everyday interactions.
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I can’t hide myself. I don’t expect you to understand. I just hope I can explain what it’s like to be a man. It’s a lonely man.
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Welcome to A Guy’s Perspective, where they discuss real-life topics that men today are dealing with. Whether married, single parent, or just single, we invite you to call in to this live program with your comments and questions. And here they are.
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How’s everybody doing today? It’s KLZ 560 AM. You can always call in at 303-477-5600. Again, that’s 303-477-5600. And it’s just us three guys in studio today, so let’s introduce ourselves and let’s get to it.
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Hi there. I’m Heath Heine, the actor in Colorado. I took your spot there, B. That’s okay.
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I used to be the…
SPEAKER 09 :
the truth but i gotta stay true to myself and yeah i’m the janitor so the truth and i’m brock okay so we’re um at the end of our show last week we had a caller call in and um we had quite a few different callers and they they really liked the show so we’re going to do a part two of how a man builds his life and It was interesting because he said out of everything we named, the one thing we left out was communication. How vital is communication to our success as men?
SPEAKER 10 :
Man, I fail to communicate all the time, especially with my girlfriend. You know what I’m saying? Maybe because you don’t want to have to deal with it at that time or you don’t want to hear it, you know? Inside, you know, you’re not speaking, but inside you’re like, man, just hush it.
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It might be a little bit easier to communicate if you guys spoke the same language. My goodness. There is that language barrier, boy.
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What about communication, like, not only in relationships, but with, like, coworkers and, like, a boss setting? Do you find that it’s easier when, like, your coworker, you know, tells you in advance that he’s not going to be there at work versus just not show up?
SPEAKER 07 :
Oh, absolutely, man. I think communication is key in all walks of life. And communication isn’t always just verbally, though that’s probably the one that is tantamount to all, that we can be sure that we articulate how we feel in our emotions and when you need to show up. But speaking about like employees and contractors and anything like that, yeah, if they’re not letting me know that they’re going to show up, then I need to show up and do the job.
SPEAKER 10 :
Yeah, and if we’re going to have good communication, I think we have to have good grammar also.
SPEAKER 07 :
What do you mean? Educate.
SPEAKER 10 :
I mean, some people that you’re speaking to on the job site, they’re speaking like if they’re speaking, talking like they’re listening to their rap songs. You know what I’m saying? So their grammar is speaking as though the music they listen to is transferring.
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Do you think that communication can affect whether you get a job or not?
SPEAKER 07 :
Yeah, I believe so. I believe so. And obviously everybody can level up and learn. And then sometimes, like Bea is saying, yeah, when you’re speaking Ebonic and street and stuff like that, then, you know, you understand that communication very well. And when you begin to read books, when people read books and people include or increase their – What’s it called? Verbage? I can’t even think.
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Increase their ability to speak, their communication skills, their verbal abilities. So in one of my psychology classes, I had to learn about nonverbal communication. Like your body language speaks just as loud as your voice does. Tone? Wow. Yeah. Like, if you approach somebody, like, let’s say you’re not wanting to hear what a person’s saying, you’ll just fold your arms a certain way. You’ll roll your eyes. Like, nonverbal communication is huge.
SPEAKER 10 :
Yeah, there’s a lot of nonverbal communication. Communication people aren’t giving you with their hand.
SPEAKER 09 :
Yeah, no, you’re right.
SPEAKER 10 :
Driving down the road, they’re giving you some communication with the finger.
SPEAKER 08 :
That’s super funny.
SPEAKER 10 :
I mean, that would be kind of cool to learn sign language. That would be totally cool.
SPEAKER 07 :
American Sign Language. Oh, yeah. Yeah. I know a couple of things.
SPEAKER 09 :
I think it would be weird, right? Like, wouldn’t you forget it if you never used it?
SPEAKER 07 :
I agree. Yeah, use it or lose it for anything. Right. If you’re not speaking another language or something regularly, then yeah, you’ll lose it.
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And people call it 303-477-5600. We as men have to understand the principles that guide our choices and the things that shape our character. What would you say is the biggest thing to shape a man’s character today? Is it money? Is it religion? Is it his home life? Is it his kids, his wife?
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I think to design your life purposefully.
SPEAKER 09 :
Okay. Okay. What do you mean by that? Yeah. What’s purpose be? Well, what is purpose to you or to, to, for our listeners to understand what, what’s the purpose of a man? That’s a good, I think you need it. That’s good.
SPEAKER 10 :
I need, I think you need to live with purpose with your own life and not allow others to, to, to, to kind of to, to, to, to direct your path in your life. If you allow it, you can allow other people to direct your path and give you their purpose instead of your own. So if your mom is whispering in your ear telling you what she thinks or your parents are telling you what school you should go to, what they think you should be, and so forth.
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Then you end up living a life that wasn’t really planned for you because you bend to the will of the individual who has your ear, who’s bending your ear. I don’t know if it’s in the Key Person of Influence book or some other book, but it says that when opportunity meets preparation, then you’ll find your purpose.
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Wow.
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So imagine if all you were doing was playing football, like from a kid, from a youth, and then you get the opportunity to live out that purpose of what you prepared for. So preparation. So me, I’ve been prepping as an actor for a long, long time. And if that opportunity comes, I’ll feel for that purpose.
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So would that be kind of like on the lines of embrace your reality, accepting reality for what it really is in your life? So, for example, some people never try to achieve their goals because they sit back and always think, well, this is how life has always been, so this is how I’m going to accept it.
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Or fear of, like, what if I fail? And some people, rare people, fear of success if they actually make it.
SPEAKER 09 :
No, that’s a good point because if you think about it, there’s a lot of people that… fear the unknown. They don’t know what’s outside of their comfort zone, so they never take a chance to achieve all the great things that they can do.
SPEAKER 10 :
I’m the number one, you know, person to talk about that.
SPEAKER 09 :
Really?
SPEAKER 10 :
Yeah, I mean, like, you know, the whole story about the eagles, how the mom will stir up the nest and kick them out so they’ll learn how to fly. Well, I’ve never, you know, I’ve never wanted to, you know, leave mom’s nest.
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Laughter
SPEAKER 10 :
He straight owned that stuff right there, bro. I mean, I’m comfortable right where I’m at, bro.
SPEAKER 07 :
That’s what it is, comfortability. Comfortability is one of the biggest traps, sadly. What do you mean? Well, when you’re comfortable, then you don’t feel impressed to move. When you have hardship, difficulty, and stuff like that, then, yeah, you are kind of forced to move. And that’s fine. But some people, too, man, they get so so used to chaos that then they can’t accept peace. At least you might have peace in your comfortability.
SPEAKER 10 :
Hey, well, not to change the subject, you know, put your hand on it. Do you think that also does with relationships? Like, some people, all they know is how to fight in a relationship. So then when they’re not fighting, they start fights just to fight because they’re always fighting.
SPEAKER 09 :
Oh, that’s deep. That’s deep. Because, like, and I agree with that. I think some people are so prone to chaos in their life. In the relationship, there’s chaos. When they get in their car, it’s trash. There’s chaos. Yeah. No, seriously, dude, when they go to their house, the dishes are piled up. It’s chaos. Like we mentioned my dad making his bed. And one of you guys said there’s a book out there or a seminar where a guy says the first thing you do is get up, make your bed, and that’s the first victory.
SPEAKER 11 :
Mm-hmm.
SPEAKER 09 :
I believe that the reason the military – and listen, people, I’ve never been in the military. My dad has for years. But I think the reason why there’s such structure is because it eliminates that chaos. Because when you have structure – You can build from that. Yes, you can build from that. You can’t build from chaos. You know what I’m saying? Like at least not that I – and maybe we’re wrong. Listen, and people, if you know more than us, call at 303-477-5600. So what he’s saying right there, relationships, some people, they’re just looking to fight 24-7. And I guess that brings in the next thing.
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Isn’t there a scripture that says something like it’s better to dwell on the roof of your house than in a house with a contentious woman? Yeah.
SPEAKER 09 :
Yeah, but it also says this. Somebody who is argumentative, always wanting to fight. This is where I think men get hung up, right? It’s because they have all this crazy crap happening in their life, and they’re never willing to step away from it and just take a deep breath. And for a man to stay true… To yourself, you’ve got to first believe in yourself, and that’s the crossroad I believe most men come to. They’ve got to make a decision. Do I stay in all this crap that’s happening to me, or do I go the opposite way?
SPEAKER 10 :
Now that you’re bringing that up, I totally believe that it is good for people that are married to go on a vacation by themselves without their family. you know, without this, you know, significant other.
SPEAKER 09 :
Well, no, no, no, I’m not talking. Well, I’m just saying that you said get away from. No, no, no, but what I’m saying is not necessarily some guy who just ups and does whatever he wants. What I’m saying is that in the middle of a fight, let’s say you and your significant other are fighting. Is it ever wrong for a guy just to walk away and say, hey, I’ve got to take a deep breath. I’ve got to step away from this. Otherwise, I’m going to spew some crap out of my mouth that I shouldn’t.
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No, I think that’s being careful with the communication that you have and giving yourself a – because I researched it recently, and it said something about the amygdala in the brain is the fight-or-flight response. And when we allow that to trip or trigger, then all of a sudden we are speaking what we shouldn’t. We say hurtful things. But if we go back to the prefrontal cortex, which sometimes we have to allow ourselves to count backwards from 10 or breathe or go for a walk, then we get centered again and we can actually come back to the argument not heated, especially for a loved one.
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So when does a guy get to his life? Because I think a lot of times when men fight, they’re just under so much stress. When does a guy get to, and I’m asking both you guys this, when does he get to a point in his life, that crossroad where he says, you know what? I want to be successful. I want to chase my dreams. Regardless of what happens, I’m taking a shot. Does a man ever get to that point? Man, I don’t know. B? B? Well, because I personally think they do. I think a man finally gets to a point in his life where he says, I want to change everything. I want to do something different. I want to chase my dreams.
SPEAKER 07 :
Yeah, that’s called a midlife crisis.
SPEAKER 09 :
No, no, no, no, no, no. It may very well be. And that’s probably a topic we’ve never talked about. But I’m talking about success in a man’s life. I mean, he’s making a good point. No, no, no, no. And it may very well be midlife crisis.
SPEAKER 10 :
All these roles that you’re talking about are from your mistakes and all your bad decision making. Yeah.
SPEAKER 09 :
But everybody makes bad decisions. I’m saying when does a guy finally chase his dreams?
SPEAKER 07 :
His dreams. Nobody else’s dreams. His dreams. So when somebody is in a position in their life to be nurtured in their ideas and thoughts and what they want to do and become and they have that, then it starts when you’re young. You start pursuing that dream life when you’re young. Yeah, but what if you don’t achieve it until you get to your 40s? Then I think it’s okay because then you have that aha moment. Then you have that realization that, look, man, life is this short. It’s so short that I’ve lived 40 years, 48 years, or whatever, and now I’ve only come to the conclusion that I need to pursue. I’d be going against God if I didn’t pursue what’s in my heart to do.
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And that’s what I’m talking about.
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Purpose.
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How does a man actually know that he’s been dwelling on this. He’s been thinking about it. He’s saying, okay, I want to do A, B, C, and D, but it’s going to take the greatest sacrifice. Does he just do it? Does he talk to his significant others? Does he talk to his friends?
SPEAKER 10 :
Well, I think a lot of people get left out because they don’t want to make that sacrifice, right? Sacrifice is, you know, that’s hard. You got to give up stuff. And right now you’re in a comfortable zone.
SPEAKER 09 :
You know, because I’ll talk about like I left a job that I was looking back at it the other day, left six figures to chase something else that didn’t work out. And at the end of the day… Well, it didn’t work out so you think.
SPEAKER 10 :
It could work out down the road. Okay, so you say it didn’t work out, right? Because you lost that job. But now you might have a better job that’s going to pay you more down the road.
SPEAKER 09 :
Yes, but that’s what I’m saying. It was hard for me to take that step. So how… How do men finally get to that place in their life? Because I can tell what I did, but a lot of people aren’t going to turn around and change a direction.
SPEAKER 07 :
Most people in their comfort of the occupation and the job or whatever that might be or the relationship change. Uh, they, they will just cling to it. They will just like become complacent and, and, and accept your, your, uh, little gains over the years, your, your, uh, cost of living increase. But I think it’s, I think it’s admirable that you gave up that one and went for another one. And I’ll tell you what, in the, in the midst of that, you’re learning, you’re growing, you’re failing. And when you’re failing, you’re learning.
SPEAKER 09 :
Yeah. And that was going to be my next question. When a person fails, it’s not. Do you guys think it’s a bad thing? I don’t think it’s a bad thing.
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It could be. It could be. Yeah. Yeah, if you allow it to dwell on it.
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If you fail to hug the turn on a mountain drive. Yeah.
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You might be in trouble.
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Call at 303-477-5677. Think about it. Some people’s failures costed them their lives.
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This is true.
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Think about that.
SPEAKER 09 :
Oh, for sure. For sure. But at the end of the day, I think the most successful people, I think, took a chance on themselves. that that that’s amazing check out what i just saw normally i don’t bring up my phone he’s bringing up his phone people it’s in his hands right now yeah i don’t i don’t normally do this yeah he always yells at brian for bringing up his phone so this is what it says it says outcome and i’ll read this on the other side but people call it 303-477-5600 It says, if you just believe, the outcome for just a believer is he is a daydreamer. A believer in himself that takes action has built wealth. Response to failure, if you’re just a believer, is self-pity. Somebody who’s a believer that takes a chance on himself is learning. Just a believer, somebody who just sits there and daydreams and says what they’re going to do but never does it is fear of rejection. Somebody who has a plan and believes in themselves says they’re going to be bold at outreach. And then here’s what got me most of all. This comes from the richest man in the world. If you just believe and you’re a daydreamer, you will have $0 in your bank account in the next 20 years. But if you believe and you take action, you will be part of the 1%. That is amazing.
SPEAKER 07 :
And we’re talking, are you talking Elon? yeah this is the man think about that so you are just a daydreamer you will never get what you want well tie that to scripture man i mean faith without works is dead right faith without works is dead which means we have to apply ourselves man i i’ve always said too man for some people you know when they educate themselves by going to school and everything That’s all good and well, but I think people have misconstrued the saying as knowledge is power, and it’s not. The application of knowledge is power.
SPEAKER 10 :
People call it 303-477. This is a deep conversation, guys. I got to be honest. Like, I’m a total daydreamer. But I think I’ve allowed, you know— my choices in life to subdue my dreams. Like, you know, my choices in life were, you know, to go party, you know, to go to the clubs. You know, not now.
SPEAKER 09 :
But that’s all part of growing, though, right?
SPEAKER 10 :
Yeah, but what I’m saying is, what I’m trying to say is, My actions were subduing my dreams because all I was thinking about was wanting to go party the next week. You know what I’m saying? Oh, let’s just get this week over. I can’t wait. All my friends are meeting here. We’re going to go do this. We’re going to go do that. And then that’s in the forefront of your thoughts and in your mind. So how could you ever want to go chase your dream when all you’re thinking about is wanting to go party?
SPEAKER 09 :
But that’s what the wealthy is saying is that if all you ever do is dream about what you want,
SPEAKER 10 :
And there’s no action, you’re never going to… I don’t think you’re understanding me. But you’re saying you had a dream, but you wanted to party instead. So that subdued your dream inside. I might have a dream to go to college and do this and do that, but it’s not there because…
SPEAKER 09 :
because of my actions are in front of that but but that brings up the next point that’s what i asked earlier when does a man decide because he can start his life right now if you want to be a millionaire you can start that crap today period and and regardless and people it’s been proven there are millionaires there are millionaires don’t you think that you could be one too
SPEAKER 08 :
Oh, my God. Call it 303-477-5670.
SPEAKER 09 :
That’s true. It only makes sense. Because what Brian was saying, Brian was saying that he was dreaming about things he wanted to do, but instead of partying, and now it’s derailed him. Well, that’s not true. No, that’s not what I’m saying. Okay, explain it.
SPEAKER 10 :
Okay, when somebody’s dreams inside of them, right, that’s all they’re focused on, right? They’re pursuing their dream. Okay. You know, they’re doing whatever it takes to accomplish that. But when I’m over here partying it up and drinking, having a good time, that overrides.
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It derailed your dream.
SPEAKER 10 :
It derailed my dream. It’s compensating for me with my drive to go towards my goals. Now I’m driven to go to the bar. You see what I’m saying? So now the dream’s hidden and you don’t even think about the dream.
SPEAKER 09 :
But that’s what I’m saying. The dream can always, you can always pursue it at any moment though.
SPEAKER 10 :
Yeah.
SPEAKER 09 :
Even though it’s being hidden or derailed or however you want to word it, it all means the same thing.
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But I don’t think you know it’s there until you finally come to the point where you want to quit drinking, you want to quit partying, and then you find out, oh, I have a dream. Oh, wait, I just partied away the last 20 years.
SPEAKER 09 :
That’s the reason I started the show and asked, when does a man finally wake up and say, hey… This is the path I need to take. Because for you, and that was cool that you laid it out like that. You were saying, hey, I would have rather party done the whole thing.
SPEAKER 07 :
And now that dream might, from the way I’m understanding, you’re thinking it might be gone, but it’s really still there. Well, let me lay something on Brian here to kind of maybe piggyback so that I can understand what you’re saying. You’re saying that sometimes when people are – they’re trying to chase a dream. And I’m thinking of like maybe my uncle who was a rocker, a rock star, man. He’d be going to – he’d have all kinds of concerts and stuff. But there’s also the party life, which is part of – Being a rock star, right? That’s true. But it shouldn’t be the driving force. It’s not the one that’s always going to be beneficial. It’s not edifying. It doesn’t help when all you do is you go and party and think that that’s part of it. I could be that as an actor. I could go and do all the drugs and the cocaine and all the sleeping around and all that stuff. But that does hinder my goal of being an actor. It doesn’t help. It hinders it. So you’re saying that sometimes maybe people are trying to live an aspect of a dream that they have, but they’re letting it get like thwarted or derailed.
SPEAKER 09 :
Right. It’s getting derailed by something. By another desire.
SPEAKER 07 :
It changes your focus.
SPEAKER 10 :
it does right it does change okay so let’s say someone had a dream and they wanted to go you know be a doctor bad times fell they ended up living on the street well what’s their focus now trying to find food trying to find see what i’m saying so they’re not even thinking about their dream anymore but you don’t know that once that once that dream is in you and listen people i’m a strong believer and someone can do anything they want to do maybe you can’t catch
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a football from Josh Allen on a Monday night. But guess what? You can still work for the football team. You can be a coach. You can be a CEO. You can do something to help contribute that. So I believe at any moment, a person’s dream can pave the way for them, I guess. Even if they think it’s not there, it can still come back up. I guess that brings up the next question. Does a dream ever die? We’ve asked that question. Does a dream ever die?
SPEAKER 07 :
My dream of being an actor almost died. But it hasn’t. You were on stage today. Just today. Yeah, just today. I was doing some rehearsal for a film and stuff like that. And it’s kind of a revitalization. But I’ve had – the fact of the matter is anything that you pursue in life is going to come with highs and lows, difficulties, and it’s about perseverance and seeing through and having resolve. So as long as you push through, then – and it may be a dream for a while. It may lead to another thing. Me as an actor, right, is on film, but now here I am on radio, so –
SPEAKER 09 :
And listen, people, this is a really good topic. Call at 303-477-5600 on the other side and tell us if we’re wrong. If we’re wrong, tell us we’re wrong. If we’re right, we’re right. You know what I’m saying? We’ve had a lot of people correct us before. I just don’t believe that if you really believe in something, it goes away. I think it sticks with you. I don’t know why I believe that, but I just believe it.
SPEAKER 10 :
But it could be the wrong dream also.
SPEAKER 09 :
That’s deep right there.
SPEAKER 10 :
You know what I’m saying? I mean, just think about the football players that always wanted to be football players, and they just always got hurt. You know, they could just never stay healthy, could never stay on the field. And in the back of my mind, I’m thinking, don’t you think God’s trying to get your attention that you shouldn’t be playing football, that he’s got another purpose for you or another plan?
SPEAKER 09 :
I don’t know, man. I don’t know.
SPEAKER 10 :
I see it happen to a few players before. No, I’ve actually heard of it. I’ve heard of a football player come out and say he kept getting hurt.
SPEAKER 09 :
Save that thought, and we’ll talk about this on the other side. This is really, really good, guys.
SPEAKER 06 :
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How’s everybody doing today? This is KLZ 560 AM. You can always call at 303-477-5600. Again, that’s 303-477-5600. We’re going to dive right back into what we were talking about, and we’ll start it off with this. On the other side, on the first half, we… read something that, that kind of illuminated what we were talking about, but the wealthiest of the wealthy or just wealthy people have made it to the top because they believed in themselves, regardless of who believed in them. If you’re going to make it to the top and fulfill your dreams and be the man you want to be, not what everybody else wants you to be. The key is the man you want to be. You got to believe in yourself. And it said this, it said that, um, Believe in the outcome of just being a daydreamer is that’s all you’re ever going to be as a daydreamer. But if you believe in your dream, plus you have actions to fulfill it, you’re getting wealth building response to failure. Somebody who just believes and is just believing in their dream, but never doing anything about it will always be in self-pity when it doesn’t work out. networking. A person who’s just believing will always feel the fear of rejection, but somebody who believes in their dream and goes after it is bold at outreaching their building like relationships with people. And then at the end of the day, this sums it all up. If you’re just believing in your dream and never taking steps towards it, your bank account will be zero for the next 20 years. But if If you believe in your dream and you go after it, you’re going to be wealthy is what the richest man in the world says at least. And so I have to trust what he says. Application.
SPEAKER 10 :
Yeah, I feel like you’re making this dream out to be, you know, just everybody’s dream is to chase money.
SPEAKER 09 :
No, it’s whatever the dream is. I’m just using money as a symbol. Because people can relate to money. But whatever your dream is.
SPEAKER 10 :
But it seems, though, the world is chasing money.
SPEAKER 09 :
Well, it’s because it’s what we need. That’s their dream. You have to have money. Listen, people, if you sit back on the couch all day long, you can pray till the cows come home. You can fast 80 days straight. to fill your bank account up with a million dollars. But guess what? It probably ain’t going to happen. Let’s just be real.
SPEAKER 10 :
Have you ever read that book, Purpose Driven? Purpose Driven, no. You’ve never read Purpose Driven? Driven by a purpose that God has for you in your life? No. You’ve never read that? You guys are lying. No.
SPEAKER 08 :
I’ve got three books in my bag right now, and none of them are purpose-driven.
SPEAKER 10 :
Purpose-driven.
SPEAKER 08 :
But I love to read.
SPEAKER 10 :
I’m shocked you haven’t read that. Was it a good one? I haven’t read it either.
SPEAKER 08 :
Well, what in the world? This time, man. You can’t bring up a book about… Call at 303-477-5600.
SPEAKER 09 :
This is what it says. The difference between believing in yourself and not believing in yourself is that the person that believes in themselves when hard times come… him or her will pivot, they’ll figure things out, and when they get knocked down, they’ll get back up. The person who doesn’t believe in themself or believe in the dream We’ll just go back to the status quo. They’ll go back to doing everything they’ve always done even though it doesn’t work.
SPEAKER 07 :
I’m reminded of – so when I lost my driver’s license because I listened to my sister. She said that you can’t get – it’s double jeopardy. You can’t get a ticket in the same day for two things. Is that true? Well, I found out that it is not true. In fact – In fact, I got a ticket for speeding, and then the cop pulled me over, and then he gave me a tongue lash and told me all kinds of stuff right by your house over there by Ruby Hill. Oh, I remember this time. You told me about this. After he told me all this trash and stuff, I crumpled up the ticket he gave me, peeled out, and he caught me. He gave me another ticket. What? So when that happened, I ended up losing my license, had a red license, and I was working for Qual Howell. And what I recall was Bob Schooley, he was the manager there, he told me this one thing, and it was about basketball. And so you have three different groups of kids that are playing basketball. You got the ones that are just envisioning and having a vision of the ball going through the hoop. And then you got the other group that is just practicing, like physically, like shooting into the hoop. And then you have the one that is kind of mixed up with it, where you’re doing both visualization of winning the game and getting it in the hoop. And they’re applying themselves. Which one do you think out of those three was the victorious one? The third one. The third one, because you have to visualize and you have to partake. You have to have action.
SPEAKER 09 :
That reminds me of something. I don’t really bring up my mom very much on the show, but you turned around and jogged my memory about something. And people just take it as a grain of salt. My mom, like, my mom didn’t really come from a place where they really cared about education, you know, on the bayou. It was just kind of like whatever.
SPEAKER 07 :
Yeah, you learn about frogs and gators and stuff.
SPEAKER 09 :
Right, you learn about, yeah, right, right, nabbing up some gators, fishing, hunting, you know, shooting a wild pig, whatever it may have been. But there was one thing she did do, though, before she passed away. Remember, she took a step out of of just whether it was faith or just whether it was nerve, whatever. And she tried to go on tour and sing. With her accordion and everything, yeah.
SPEAKER 08 :
Remember that? Like, listen, people, and nobody here knows my mom, and I’m not going to go into depth with this, but it lines up with what we’re talking about.
SPEAKER 09 :
She, and I’m not going to give her name or anything like that or what her occupation was, but… But she followed a dream. She followed a dream. And you know what’s amazing about that? But listen, you know what? I was never going to tell my mom she couldn’t sing.
SPEAKER 07 :
Yeah, but she made sure she had an audience every time we were in her house.
SPEAKER 09 :
Yes, every time you were in her house. Yes, she had that accordion. And what’s amazing about it is since she was a kid, and I didn’t have the heart to tell my mom she couldn’t sing, but you know what? At the end of the day, the lady made a tape. I couldn’t believe it.
SPEAKER 07 :
Wow. Followed through, had God on her side, had a passion in her heart to sing. There it is.
SPEAKER 09 :
She had a dream she would not let go.
SPEAKER 10 :
Yeah, I think a good strategy if you do have a dream, like it just came to me, is write down. Write it down.
SPEAKER 09 :
Oh, that’s good.
SPEAKER 10 :
Write it down on the board and stick it up on a wall when you wake up in the morning. That’s the first thing you see.
SPEAKER 01 :
That’s good.
SPEAKER 10 :
That’s the first thing that you’re thinking about. That’s good. And then you’re allowed to start taking those steps. I mean, what did Jim Carrey do? He wrote down the money he wanted to. Wrote a check. Yeah.
SPEAKER 07 :
Jim Carrey did? Yeah. Wow. He wrote himself a check for a million dollars. Then he landed Mask and Ace Ventura. Or no, no, Dumb and Dumber. Wow. And he got paid money.
SPEAKER 09 :
Call at 303-477-5600 and tell us what you think about this. It’s amazing because when I’m working out, I listen to a lot of motivational things. And Jesus, there are guys out there, when you hear their stories, like Arnold, when you hear his story, David Goggins, when you hear his story, just Elon Musk, when you hear these men, where they came from and what they sacrificed, man. To get where they are today, it’s mind-boggling. These guys believed so much in who they were, in their self, in their dream. They were willing to go bankrupt over everything. I mean, Tesla didn’t just wake up one day and start driving down the road. Somebody had to bring that crap into existence. And I think about us all the time. And every person who’s listening to it, you can be a millionaire if you chase that.
SPEAKER 10 :
And maybe, and I think people might have, I think people. um kind of have trouble balancing you know okay i think you have a trouble balancing big ambitions you know with staying present with your life and maybe with your kids you know juggling your life with the ambitions of going for it all like if you’re gonna go for it all right i mean you might be you know selling the house you know what i’m saying No, no, no, no.
SPEAKER 07 :
That’s true. What is it? I think it’s Myron Golden. He states that, you know, with every new thing, every change comes disruption. So the first thing you’re going to experience when you start lifting weights because you want to have that change or that physique or that body, what do you think happens first, pain or glory?
SPEAKER 09 :
pain first yeah for sure when you start lifting you’re gonna feel it it’s gonna hurt then you’re gonna get better and you’re gonna get bigger so i guess this would be what we need to narrow down why are so many men listen people we’re talking to men in general we we really don’t know about women we’re not talking about our girlfriends we’re talking about men why do men stay in the safe zone what why is it that we’re so programmed to get up every single day, go to a job that pays $17 an hour, yet you spend your whole entire check on some Starbucks, but you never want to make a change. Why are we programmed like that?
SPEAKER 07 :
I think there’s internal and external influence. Hmm. What do you mean? That’s good. That is really good. And so this ties back and harkens back to what B said to begin with, which is sometimes people are pursuing or living out dreams that they never had. They never intended it was it was their parents or or the people close to them that led them down a path to either play football or to whatever it might be.
SPEAKER 10 :
hmm that is wild to think yeah yeah and think and i think a lot a lot of people that i’ve you know talked to that have went to school before you know it they hate what they’re doing because it was never there like so you know they’ve went to college you’ve paid out 100 200 000 you know in college you know and here you are i’m still i’m still in college i know i know but what i’m saying is i’m saying is that you know you went for one course you went for one purpose and when you actually are finished you absolutely hate it and you want to do something else in your life and now you’re in debt two hundred thousand dollars i’m not saying you can’t use those experiences down the road as gross yeah yes but still i mean you just wasted all that money and now you find out you absolutely hate it and you’re not even doing what you went to college for
SPEAKER 09 :
And so do you think that’s the reason guys stay in the safe zone? Like, oh, dude, I messed up. I went to college. So I’m just going to deal with it.
SPEAKER 10 :
I mean, personally, I’m going to hate anything I do. I mean, I love a job. Don’t get me wrong. Don’t get me wrong. I love having a job, right? When I go to my job, you know, I have a good time, you know, so forth and so on. But we all know that the curse is on us.
SPEAKER 07 :
Here’s the thing.
SPEAKER 10 :
We all know the Lord put a curse on us to sweat from the, you know, the brown.
SPEAKER 09 :
So that’s funny you keep mentioning that curse, and I’ll let you talk. Do you think it was unfair for the Lord to put that on us?
SPEAKER 10 :
No, you know what I’m saying? Okay, so everybody can sit here. Let me give you a reference. Okay. You can sit here and tell me that you love your job. Yeah, then why is everybody playing Powerball to get rich so they don’t have to go to work tomorrow? You tell me that. You come and talk to me.
SPEAKER 07 :
Yeah. So it’s misdirected. Here’s the problem. Remember, we’ve got to love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, mind, body, and soul, and love thy neighbor as thyself, right? Yeah. But whatever the hand finds to do, do it with all they might. But we can’t say everybody doesn’t like their job. But here’s the thing that I’m going to tell you. I like what I do in all these regards and all these. The reason I show up to the show is for you guys, man. It’s because I like you. Oh, yeah. That’s why I go to my job because I like the people. So it’s relational, right? Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. So if we’re serving people, if we’re being present, then it doesn’t matter what you do, you’re already winning. When I do windshield repairs and I’m serving people, it makes me happy. It could be building fences. It could be plunging toilets. It could be anything that if I love people and I love to serve, then I’m already winning.
SPEAKER 09 :
Call that 303-477-5600 because I don’t believe everybody hates their job. I’ll never believe that. I just won’t because, dude, there are some people out there that they have found their niche in life. They are doing the thing that they’ve wanted to always do. They’ve fulfilled their dream. Maybe they wanted to be an astronaut. That’s probably 5%. You can’t say that. The percentage is so low. You cannot say that. I put money on it. Okay. Well, somebody look it up. Please, somebody call in at 303-477-5600, and we’re going to do a test right now. I got Bible for you. If you call in and say you hate your job, then we’re going Brian’s way. If you call in and say you love your job, then we’re going my way. But I got Bible.
SPEAKER 10 :
I agree with the Bible.
SPEAKER 09 :
He cursed you from the sweat of your brow. That means it’s a curse. That doesn’t mean he’s cursed every single person to get up and go to work.
SPEAKER 07 :
No, he’s saying that he cursed the ground so that it no longer produces easily. We have to till it. Yes, I completely.
SPEAKER 10 :
From your brow, meaning you’re going to work in the hot sun. Right, right. That’s the thing.
SPEAKER 07 :
There’s some people that ain’t even working in the sun. You have to till and you have to labor for something that used to come so easy. I don’t care what you say. Everybody hates to wake up early, bro.
SPEAKER 09 :
There’s some people, no, you can’t say that.
SPEAKER 07 :
Okay, what about this? What in your life brings you peace, joy, happiness, or something? Is it playing a video game? Is it going for a walk? There’s got to be something. Is it eating food? For me, I enjoy eating food. But more than that, the camaraderie that comes with eating food. I love to get together with people. For sure.
SPEAKER 09 :
So you’re telling me, because listen, all of us have been to the bayou. We’ve all woken up at four in the morning and went to the coffee shop before we went fishing, having fun. That’s their life. That’s what they do. You can’t tell me they hate that.
SPEAKER 10 :
chicory and beignet man oh dude it’s super cool yeah dude and you get up it’s it’s you get up three in the morning and go in you know have a good talk some good breakfast and you go out fishing throw the fishing line i can’t see the alcohol that people try to talk themselves out of not hating their job so they’ll tell you how much they love it how much they love to go to their job so that it kind of covers up what’s really on the inside try to speak it into existence
SPEAKER 09 :
No, no, no, no, no. And I’m not saying people don’t hate their job. That’s what I’m saying, the safe zone. There’s a lot of guys who they’re not willing to take a risk, so they stay where they’re at. But I can’t say that 90% of all the people on the planet hate their job.
SPEAKER 07 :
I want to speak on this for a lot of people, for anybody who’s willing to listen, but it’s that I don’t make the majority of my money from acting. Acting is what I love, and it’s the thing that pays my heart. It makes me feel good. I enjoy it, and I do it for dang near free all the time. But I do windshield repairs, and that’s my business, and that’s where I make money. So whether I was making a lot of money or a little money at Clearview, then I’d still be pursuing doing what makes me happy, which is acting. So I’m just saying that you don’t have to work your passion and make money at it. You can just live your passion also in…
SPEAKER 09 :
But, well, let me ask you this. If you were a full-time actor, if you were in Hollywood and you were in the next Avengers movie and you were making millions off that, would you be happy or no? I’d be happier, yes.
SPEAKER 07 :
Yeah, yeah, man. I mean, but you see what I’m saying? If I was making movies and getting paid like really good, oh.
SPEAKER 09 :
Okay, so take radio, for example. If you were full-time on the radio right here, Monday through Monday, and they were paying you $100,000 a year, are you going to be unhappy? No, I’m going to be super happy.
SPEAKER 07 :
On radio, if he’s making money on this.
SPEAKER 09 :
Yeah, if he was making $100,000, because… Listen, people, we’re not making $100,000 on the radio currently, but what I’m saying is you can’t say every single person on this planet hates their job.
SPEAKER 10 :
I’ll ask you a different question in a different way. Would you rather go to your job or would you rather be on the beach on a vacation?
SPEAKER 09 :
Well, yes. What would you rather be doing? No, no, no, no. I’m asking you a question. And I’m going to answer. What would you rather be doing, one or two? Listen, I would rather be on a vacation any day. No, no, no, listen. Listen, hold on. I’m going to clarify it. I’m going to clarify it. If God gave me the ability to be an NBA player, I’d rather be in front of 50 million people dunking a basketball than on vacation. Because, number one, if you find your dream and you’re successful in your purpose, I believe money comes with it.
SPEAKER 10 :
Do you think a lot of people don’t chase their dream because they’ve weighed their options?
SPEAKER 09 :
Yes. They’re afraid to take the step. Yes.
SPEAKER 10 :
Weigh their options. Because I think a lot, if you’re going to chase your dreams, I think you’ve got to prioritize self-care. mental you got to prioritize your your physical mental and emotional health to sustain your efforts bro you don’t know what it’s going to cost down the road so if you put if you put all your money in in your marbles into one basket correct to go for a dream this is right it’s not panning out your business isn’t growing you put all your money into that that could totally destroy your efforts Instead of somebody being mentally focused and saying it doesn’t matter what’s going to happen, I’m still going to go forward with it.
SPEAKER 07 :
But I was going to tell you about the physical aspect. It’s not necessary that somebody’s physically fit because a dream could be a bowling champion.
SPEAKER 09 :
No, it could be.
SPEAKER 07 :
You know what I mean? It could be shaped like, yeah.
SPEAKER 09 :
So I guess it comes down to self-esteem. How much do you love yourself? Because if you love yourself, you’re going to go after what makes you happy.
SPEAKER 07 :
So I want to get to a point here. So for those people that think that they just need to be physically fit and it’s like football and basketball and snowboarding and all that kind of stuff and you have to be physically fit to be top tier and make money at your dream in the realm of sport, name a sport that is like low level, man. Curling? Bowling? Pool? Pool. Well, look at all of these things. All of these things are like bar room type things. And now there’s people who are making millions doing that. And they still have the top tier. They still have, like, top dollar, and they get the glory.
SPEAKER 09 :
But, well, look at Arnold. He did it from working out. Mm-hmm. He made it to the top because of what he changed his body. But even interesting more than that, it’s think of all the money you can make by. Forget you can be 400 pounds. Your mind can bring you a lot of cash, dude. If you use that the right way, there’s a whole lot of money.
SPEAKER 07 :
So I think when somebody has a focused intensity on any given thing, they can really succeed, man. You have to have focus, though.
SPEAKER 09 :
I’m with you 100% because if you’re not focused, you’re not going to make those initial steps to chase that dream, dude. I just cannot. And listen, people, maybe we’re wackos. Maybe we’ve fallen off the turnip wagon the whole nine yards. And you can call at 303-477-5600 and tell us. But I really do truly believe that if you want to fulfill your purpose in your dream, you’ve got to go after it.
SPEAKER 07 :
Yeah.
SPEAKER 09 :
I just don’t believe it’s just going to fall in your lap one day.
SPEAKER 07 :
No. Does one have to forsake everything else and follow that dream? No. Forsake family and faith and current occupation and all that. I don’t think it’s necessary to forsake it all.
SPEAKER 09 :
Well, I don’t think so either, but I do think they have to prioritize what comes first.
SPEAKER 07 :
Because a double-minded man is unstable in all his ways. That’s powerful. When we have multiple things going on, then yeah. Yeah.
SPEAKER 09 :
Right. Because I think if you’re there’s always going to be a give and a take. Right. Or am I wrong? Like like Keith was saying, like, I just think you have to prioritize what comes first. Like, you know what I’m saying? What’s most important in your life right now? If it’s being a millionaire, that’s going to be at the top. But if it’s if it’s family, that’s going to be at the top. If it’s hiking, that’s going to be at the top. If it’s shooting, that’s going to be at the top. If it’s radio, it’s going to be at the top.
SPEAKER 07 :
Do you think morality is one of those things that comes into play for people achieving or attaining whatever it is that they want? Oh, like porn stars type people? Yeah. So me being an actor, I have a moral baseline of things I won’t do. And do you think that hinders my ability to make it? No, no, no.
SPEAKER 09 :
I don’t think so. Brian, what do you think?
SPEAKER 10 :
Now that he brought that up, how many people do you think are chasing those big dreams to be an actor because they know that it comes with the money and it comes with multiple partners at that point? Do you think a lot of people are chasing to be actors because they know they can have multiple partners?
SPEAKER 09 :
I don’t think you’ll even achieve it if that’s the main thing. I think you have to have a love for it. Well, you’re an actor. Tell us. I don’t know.
SPEAKER 08 :
You know what I’m saying?
SPEAKER 09 :
You’re the actor. Well, what comes first, the love or the money?
SPEAKER 10 :
Um, I just, I just bring that up because you just, you know, when you’re watching, you know, television, you just see, you know, actors going through this person, that person and the other person. Yeah. All the time. I mean, it’s with everybody. Oh, they, you know, they go out for a couple months and then they’re on to somebody else and they, you know, so forth.
SPEAKER 07 :
Sometimes that stuff is, is just like it is in corporation. It’s political. So sometimes like, uh, uh, Ben, Bennifer, Ben marrying Jennifer and whatever that happens, uh, so that one can level up higher than the other. You know what I mean? It’s an act.
SPEAKER 09 :
It’s almost like networking in a way, right?
SPEAKER 07 :
It’s networking in a show. Yeah, public display.
SPEAKER 10 :
Yeah, so I kind of think people chase their dreams so they can chase their sexual or their fleshly ambitions. Right.
SPEAKER 07 :
Money being one of them. Money, power, respect.
SPEAKER 10 :
Yes.
SPEAKER 09 :
Because I heard Arnold say one time, I was listening to his podcast. Oh, he did.
SPEAKER 07 :
Dirty to Lou Ferrigno.
SPEAKER 09 :
Well, this is what he said. He said, no matter what it is that you want to do to get to the top. of your dream, do it. If you want to have the best figure, if you want to drive the nicest car, if you want to have the biggest house, then you do that. I don’t necessarily think that’s the right way. I think you should have a love for what you do, but he says opposite. And obviously he knows more than me because he’s a lot richer than me. You know, he’s been in a lot of movies, but… How did he do Lou Ferrigno wrong?
SPEAKER 07 :
Oh, yeah. In coming up, man, like with, like, I don’t know if I read his book or watched an episode or series on it, but it had to do with, like, weigh-ins and stuff like that. He would call Lou Ferrigno and tell him, pretend to be somebody else and say that the weigh-in was going to be this much. And so he showed up fatter than… Wow.
SPEAKER 09 :
Dude, that makes you really, really wonder. Let’s take football, for example. And I know we’ve been using a lot of sports. But let’s take Spygate. Let’s talk to Deflategate. I mean, you know what I’m saying? Let’s be real. They deflated that football so that one quarterback could have a better advantage over the other one.
SPEAKER 07 :
At the end of the day.
SPEAKER 09 :
And it caused him going into the Hall of Fame.
SPEAKER 10 :
yeah that’s funny you mentioned that that was the number one reason i just heard that on sports center the reason um spygate yeah bella the problem with that was the problem with that was is not that he did it is that they told them to stop and because most most teams were doing it at that time but the problem was is when you know The NFL told him to stop. He continued to do it. And that’s where he got in trouble.
SPEAKER 07 :
Looks like we need to show on some football here.
SPEAKER 09 :
Yeah, it just tied into success. But no, that’s interesting we brought that up. Because if you think Belichick, because he cheated like that, he didn’t get in. Oh, no, for sure. Yeah, I mean, that’s huge.
SPEAKER 10 :
And everybody’s like, oh, he’s a first-bound Hall of Famer.
SPEAKER 1 :
Rawr.
SPEAKER 07 :
no and he probably should have been but they used that against him but what you’re saying they used it against him that’s back to that thing I said which is morality one has to check their morality for the what they’re trying to achieve or attain in life and sometimes I think people who are willing to cross the line are the ones who might succeed the most
SPEAKER 09 :
That’s crazy you said that, dude. I mean, because you can go on a political rant with that, dude. Like, so because this is what I don’t understand about politics. And God, we’re out of time. I really wish we had more time. It’s how they can sit back and bash each other in front of the whole world. But that’s not like a defamation of character. I don’t understand that.
SPEAKER 07 :
No, seriously. I’ll end with one thing in the film industry is this, and it’s there is no bad publicity. There’s only, wait, wait, yeah, there’s no bad publicity. There’s only publicity.
SPEAKER 09 :
Wow, that’s crazy. Well, we’ll see y’all next week. Thank you so much. God, there’s no.
SPEAKER 06 :
I don’t expect you to understand.
SPEAKER 05 :
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