Valentine’s Day is coming up, and the guys dig into the question a lot of men quietly feel: why does this day come with so much pressure—and a price tag? From $80 roses to restaurant markups, they talk about how “love” gets treated like a transaction, and what guys can do when the budget is tight but the expectations are loud.
The conversation bounces between laughs and legit relationship insight: Cupid and Greek mythology, the “Hallmark holiday” argument, and the reality that many men feel programmed to prove love with money. Then it turns practical—what actually lands in a relationship?
SPEAKER 05 :
i can’t hide myself i don’t expect you to understand i just hope i can explain what it’s like to be a man welcome to a guy’s perspective where they discuss real life topics that men today are dealing with whether married single parent or just single we invite you to call in to this live program with your comments and questions and here they are
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How’s everybody doing today? This is KLZ 560 AO. You can always call at 303-477-5600. Again, 303-477-5600. And you can talk to the guys. Let’s get into it. Let’s go, guys. Let’s introduce yourself.
SPEAKER 12 :
Hey, this is Heath Hine, the actor in Colorado. Oh, shout out to Dustin and Eddie Portoghese. I’m about to be on a set tonight with them.
SPEAKER 11 :
Right on. Yeah, right on, right on. This is Andre with your local advanced tech electrical installer. So, and now we got.
SPEAKER 04 :
And I am your favorite janitor. Shout out to all my janitors.
SPEAKER 12 :
And the plunger. Okay. All you sanitary people.
SPEAKER 03 :
All right, man. We’re going to be talking Valentine’s. Can you believe we’re at a year now? Yeah, I was in our show. We spoke about this. Yeah. Yeah. I was thinking about that the other day.
SPEAKER 12 :
Well, our first show, people, was the Plunger of Love. It was Valentine’s and the Mooch. That was our first.
SPEAKER 11 :
Yeah, it was. The Plunge. Taking the Plunge of Love. From our favorite janitor.
SPEAKER 04 :
Yeah, I’ve always wanted to do like a commercial. Are you tired of your relationship? Are you fed up? Call me. 303-477-5600. And take a plunge into love.
SPEAKER 03 :
It’s some funny stuff. All right, let’s get into it. While many holidays center around historic events, culture, traditions, or religion, significance, Valentine’s Day is the only holiday dedicated to celebrating love. It’s the only one.
SPEAKER 11 :
It’s the only one. When was it brought up, though? I mean, when did it become Americanized or commercialized? Do you know? Um…
SPEAKER 03 :
That I don’t. You know, I’m sure it’s because it’s been commercialized for a while.
SPEAKER 11 :
Yeah, that’s totally what I think it is, man. It’s another Hallmark Channel holiday, right?
SPEAKER 12 :
How many other saints have holidays? There’s the St. Patrick’s and St.
SPEAKER 11 :
Patrick’s coming up. I’m kind of looking.
SPEAKER 03 :
St. Patrick’s is next month, I think. Correct.
SPEAKER 12 :
But it’s not a holiday of love, though. No, but it’s another saint. Oh, yeah. And so I’m wondering, man, there’s like a cabal. There’s something about these holidays.
SPEAKER 03 :
So what exactly happens when the adorable armed… Guy with the bow, the chubby dude shoots you with his arrow. What exactly happens, man? You talking about Brian here? That little cherum, you know, with his diaper and he’s going around and he’s flicking his, you know, arrows at people. What exactly happens? Do you guys know? They’re supposed to fall in love. Aren’t they? Yeah, that’s the goal. I mean, he’s going to be on every card that you give your ladies this holiday.
SPEAKER 12 :
He’s all over the place. I bet his arrow tips are like, I don’t know, they’re exposed to ecstasy or something when he shoots people. He’s getting people.
SPEAKER 03 :
it’s weird like like i started reading up on this guy and where he came from right it’s so let’s dive into valentine’s well if the greek mythology god eros which is cupid did shoot you it’s because you’re extremely beautiful So he only goes after certain people. No, no, no, check it out. Listen to people. You’re either one really good-looking guy or you’re one really good-looking woman.
SPEAKER 11 :
Okay.
SPEAKER 03 :
So he goes after those type of people. He also goes after heroes. If in your life you’re going to be a hero, you might get struck by one of his arrows, man.
SPEAKER 04 :
I’m not going to get struck if I’m a mama’s boy living at home. I thought you already got struck.
SPEAKER 10 :
I’m going to get struck to your mom, man.
SPEAKER 12 :
So heroes like Shrek and Quasimodo. Exactly. You don’t have to be pretty. You can just be a hero and then you get shot with an arrow.
SPEAKER 03 :
You need to be good looking or you can be a hero. Here’s another one. If you’re arrogant… you’re arrogant you might very well get shot and he’ll do it on purpose just to prove a point to humble you yeah if you’re that guy going around thinking i’m this single guy i can do whatever i want to do i can go wherever i want to go be the man i want to be he might very well strike you
SPEAKER 11 :
That makes sense. You know why? Why? Because as soon as you get a lover, you start losing all that money you make, right? Oh, snap.
SPEAKER 12 :
Yeah, the wallet gets lighter. The hair gets thinner. The belly gets fatter.
SPEAKER 03 :
Here’s another one. If you’re a simple farmer or a laborer, he might not shoot you. Damn. Because you don’t have anything to offer a woman. So he may very well bypass you altogether. Isn’t that crazy? So now here, this is crazy.
SPEAKER 04 :
Does it say anything about the janitor?
SPEAKER 03 :
Well, is that considered being a laborer?
SPEAKER 04 :
I’d say a farmer. Okay, well, he might bypass you. I’m farming for doo-doo.
SPEAKER 03 :
Now, check this out. The golden arrow that causes instant and overwhelming love or desire for the first person you see intense attraction and uncontrollable desire he’s got two types of arrows in his quiver he’s got the golden arrow and he’s got the silver arrow right and so with this silver arrow it causes a person hatred like you can’t so the golden arrow if you get shot by it it’s instant love for the person you see but the other arrow will cause you to hate the person that you see you can’t stand them you don’t even want to talk to them Is there a rainbow arrow? No, he’s only got two types of arrow.
SPEAKER 01 :
But here, we’re going to get to boundary.
SPEAKER 03 :
Here’s the kicker of it all. In Greek mythology, since he’s around, since Greek mythology is fake and the arrow is only a type and replica of love, it says every person has a 100% chance to get struck because everybody will fall in love. Isn’t that crazy? Every person on this planet will eventually fall in love, so Cupid will shoot you eventually.
SPEAKER 04 :
I want to say everybody. Name a person who hasn’t fallen in love. I know somebody who hasn’t. Okay, spit it out. You know, she allowed her. Her circumstances with her father-in-law, I’m not going to go into details, but it really destroyed her life. She began to gain tons of weight and, you know, with that weight became depression and, you know, self-esteem was low. And so she, she never had a relationship. So never felt love at all for her parents either? Well, yeah, that, but we’re talking Valentine’s. We’re not talking about love for your family.
SPEAKER 03 :
Love is love.
SPEAKER 04 :
No, bro. Yes, you can love anything.
SPEAKER 03 :
You can love your dog.
SPEAKER 04 :
We’re talking about a significant other here today. There’s plenty of different ways to love. The cupid of love ain’t shooting you to fall in love with your mom and dad. I agree with Brian on this, man.
SPEAKER 03 :
People who don’t have relationships with their parents can turn back around years later and love their parents. By Cupid’s arrow? Not by Cupid’s arrow. I don’t know how you fall in love, but eventually you’re going to.
SPEAKER 04 :
So are people bringing roses and candy to their mom and dad for Valentine’s? A lot of people do. No, bro. A lot of people do.
SPEAKER 03 :
I thought you did.
SPEAKER 04 :
What? No, I think I did for my mom. No, no, no. That was mom’s day. You would never bring your mom flowers? Not for Valentine’s Day, dude. Does it feel a little awkward? Why would you not? Oh, my gosh.
SPEAKER 03 :
No, no, no. Let’s talk about it. Let’s talk about it. Would you bring your mom flowers or give her candy or tell her, happy Valentine’s Day?
SPEAKER 12 :
Well, yeah, you tell her happy Valentine’s Day and stuff. I don’t know, when you’re younger and everything, yeah. Because you’re, A, you’re built into the commercialism. You know, we all go to school and we get our candies and write love letters and all that kind of stuff. And you include your teacher and your mom and all that stuff at that time.
SPEAKER 11 :
That’s right.
SPEAKER 12 :
But man, when you start getting romantic, I’m going to spend that money on the one that’s on my arm.
SPEAKER 03 :
Because that’s where I think we’re missing the concept of love. We’re just put in love with romance.
SPEAKER 11 :
Well, love comes in a lot of terms, right? Like agape love. And then I can’t remember all the different styles of love, but like agape, agape type love. Then you have the love that is like related more toward lust. You know, for sure. And then you have just a generic love for your, you know, for one another. Right. And so, you know, when you have that, I guess it depends on the type of love you have, you know, for your mom or your dad, for instance. I mean, but I think sometimes we forget how much love that we do have for our parents until we start to think back about all the stuff they did. And even if it was so-called never enough, which I think this new generation is about, like it’s not enough, it’s not enough. Right. When you connect, you look back and see what your parents did, whether they had the means to do so or not. Man, at some point, you still got to love them. You know what I mean?
SPEAKER 03 :
That’s deep. And call at 303-477-5600. Let’s talk about this. So what exactly is love to each one of us? Is it a sexual desire? No. Is it a strong attraction? No.
SPEAKER 11 :
Really, what is love?
SPEAKER 03 :
I mean, if we’re going to sit here and talk about it.
SPEAKER 11 :
I think it has a little bit of aspect of everything, you know, but biblically, I don’t know what the biblical answer is, so don’t quote me on it. But, you know, there’s definitely got to be some attraction, right? Because I’m not going to be set up with someone, you know, like other religions try to do, you know. I don’t want to prearrange marriage. But sometimes I think you’ve got to look outside the box, too. Like I think some religions say, you know, date within your church or date within your mosque or whatever. But, you know, sometimes, I don’t know, there’s not really a good pick out there, and they’re not always the right one for you, in my opinion. But, you know, you’ve really got to be choosy and take your time.
SPEAKER 12 :
Well, on what Dre was saying about, like, prearranged marriages and stuff, what if it isn’t an act of love from the parents saying, I know who is going to be perfect for you because I bore you and I raised you and I know that this is the perfect fit. And then all of a sudden, I’m going off of, like, Simpsons here, people. Okay. because Apu’s wife, Manjula, she came to him like later in life after he was sowing his royal oats. But it’s like the perfect match. So maybe it is love when parents do a prearranged marriage.
SPEAKER 11 :
So check this out. So I can counter that one. What if you’re just a good man and that other, you know, the future father-in-law and mother-in-law know how terrible that their daughter is. And so now they’re basically trying to
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Push them off.
SPEAKER 11 :
Exactly.
SPEAKER 03 :
I know you’re a good man.
SPEAKER 11 :
I know you’ll take care of them.
SPEAKER 03 :
Don’t tell me it doesn’t happen. So is love an action or a word?
SPEAKER 04 :
I think it’s far from words because you could say a lot and your actions don’t mean what you’re saying. So you could tell somebody you love them all day, but what’s your action saying? Exactly. That’s biblical, too. What does the Bible say about loving with more than just your words? Yeah.
SPEAKER 12 :
Deeds? Well, faith without works is dead. Right. But that doesn’t talk about words. So a man thinketh, so he is. And then out of the recesses of his heart, the mouth speaks.
SPEAKER 11 :
So love’s an action. It is an action. But because like, I don’t think people fall out of love intentionally. I think it just happens over time. And sometimes with the circumstances, you know, whether they’re external, someone, you know, getting into their head or. the fantasy of an affair or whatever the case may be, or even just boredom, right? Just the same old, same old, you know, and antipathy and the bedroom, you know, sometimes if it gets old, it seems to be rekindled. If there’s what an extra marital or whatever the case may be, you know, and that’s all fantasy when you think about it, because nothing’s really changed.
SPEAKER 03 :
Call at 303-477-5600 and tell us what you think about love it. So, so let me, let me ask you this before you go into that. Love language. If love is an action, do you need to know your significant person’s love language? Well, yeah, doesn’t it say?
SPEAKER 12 :
It says something to the effect of, what was it? It was like a joke. If it’s the thought that counts, then, hey, what were you thinking? Because you didn’t think too much about the gift you gave. You know what I mean? So you do need to be thoughtful and considerate as to what it is that you’re going to get for somebody.
SPEAKER 04 :
Yeah, that’s why they call me the doctor of love. All right. I mean, if there’s five love languages, I just cover all the bases. Really? I just give you all five, and then if only one of them— What’s the five? Gifts, words of affection. Affirmation, yes. Affirmation.
SPEAKER 03 :
put acts of service yeah acts of yeah services and um guys what physical touch guys i’m giving us a d plus physical touch okay so so i was listening to psychologists the other day and she was saying that if your significant person’s love language is gifts Dude, on Valentine’s Day, don’t show up with anything but a gift, dude. Sure.
SPEAKER 04 :
And it doesn’t have to be expensive. You shouldn’t be showing up with gifts only on Valentine’s. You should get Valentine’s started the week prior. Is that why you’re always broke? What? No, I mean, if a woman has to wait, I mean, I feel like Valentine’s Day is set up for if your relationship is in, you know, in the garage, you know, it’s dormant. I mean, women are just waiting for this day to jumpstart the relationship. You know, it’s like a day for you have a bad relationship. This might, you know, jumpstart it to be good where it was before.
SPEAKER 11 :
prior not always what if the relationship’s just toast i mean it’s gone i there what does it take to bring someone out of a failing relationship where they’re saying you know what i’ve had enough i’m dry i’m like i don’t have love for you i don’t have hate for you i’m just numb I’m done with you. And I know, sadly enough, I know there’s people out there that really go through that, right?
SPEAKER 03 :
Well, what if people have a good relationship?
SPEAKER 11 :
Well, then this should, you know, this should highlight that, right? This is probably one of those times where you want to be able to show them, you know, who they really are to you on a commercialized day. But, you know, go to Hallmark, guys.
SPEAKER 03 :
Call at 303-477-5600. Tell us what you think. So you guys are making a good point. Like Brian made a good point. You made a good point. So I think some guys have just horrible relationships and they think, oh, it’s Valentine’s Day. I can change everything. but at least they’re making a start. At least they’re finding a starting point.
SPEAKER 11 :
Isn’t that the key? I think it is a key, but you also got to remember, see, I always go back to human nature, man. All the stuff, whether it’s love, whether it’s hate, whether it’s your spending habits, it goes back into human nature. And if you look at the Bible, there’s not one perfect person in there except for Christ, right? And then when you look at all those people, they have all these different shortcomings, but yet they have one thing that they can rely on, which is love. True agape love, getting back to that, and if they can have a godly type of love, which God have mercy if any of us can have it on each other, especially with today’s society, that’s the type of love we should be able to exemplify, a sacrificial love, right? That sacrifices my means for you, but doesn’t give up your right, per se, because you are an individual and you deserve that respect as an individual, right? If I’m trying to be – do everything I can for this woman and now I’m becoming that person that basically is always staying home because she said so or vice versa if it’s a guy. I got to do this because he said so. And then now I’ve eliminated my gym time. I’ve eliminated my friend time. Even my own family time, that’s not love. You know, perfect love is sacrificial, but sacrifice basically goes into, you know, what can I do for you as a servant, you know? But with that servitude, you’ve got to be able to have a lot of trust in the fact that you guys are growing mutually as lovers. That’s good, yeah. Yeah.
SPEAKER 03 :
Because I wonder about it all the time. And we’ll ask you about it, Heath and you guys. If a guy is trying his best, he’s doing his best in whatever he can for a relationship, but he can’t afford Valentine’s. Because let’s be real, man. Valentine’s is commercialized. Flowers are now going to be $80, $90, and every woman across America is going to get it. But if you’ve got that one guy who’s working his butt off, but he can’t afford that because he’s got to pay the bills first, should he be scrutinized for not having flowers?
SPEAKER 04 :
No, he could do way more things than spending money. Yeah, robbing banks.
SPEAKER 12 :
Yeah, she could come home. I mean, but is that an act of love, though, if somebody robs a bank so that they could provide for their loved ones? Body and client, right? Yeah. That was love, was it not?
SPEAKER 04 :
No, I would talk about rose petals when she comes home from wherever she’s at.
SPEAKER 11 :
What if you can’t afford that? If you can’t afford it, then what you do is you roll up on the guy that’s selling those roses and you act like you’re about to get some money and then jack his roses and then pull off when the light turns green.
SPEAKER 12 :
But again, see, love will make you do crazy things.
SPEAKER 03 :
You’ll be out your mind. You’ll be out your mind. Guys, I’m being serious. This Valentine’s Day, there’s going to be guys out there that cannot afford the restaurant. They cannot afford the flowers. What are they going to do?
SPEAKER 12 :
Let me take it back to your Greek mythology with your little diaper baby and arrows. And you said he had two arrows. One arrow is a silver and one arrow is a gold. One of them makes you fall in love. What’s the other one do?
SPEAKER 03 :
Makes you hate.
SPEAKER 12 :
Right. And as we know, there’s a thin line between love and hate because there was a movie about it. So that’s the truth. And so to touch on like what Dre was saying earlier, the opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is apathy. So when people are doing things in like either hatred, it’s because they were hurt by love.
SPEAKER 11 :
Yeah, I could see that.
SPEAKER 12 :
So when they do these things, when they act chaotic or they do these things, I don’t know. I don’t know how that fits into this show, but I’m just saying love can drive a person crazy.
SPEAKER 03 :
It really can. But if you think about the society and the times we live in, and it’s so difficult, especially because, like, I looked it up. Check this out, what it says. It says 64% of all men in America will buy flowers on Valentine’s Day. Think of that.
SPEAKER 12 :
Well, there’s four of us here. So that’d be three out of four. Yes. I’m not buying flowers.
SPEAKER 03 :
I’m going to buy a rose at least. So this is the question I’m asking you. When a man is so stressed from life itself, and he cannot afford that, what is it doing to him mentally? Well…
SPEAKER 11 :
It’s a drag, but I’ll tell you what, in high school, I actually had, I mean, this girl’s parents taught her right. And it’s not always the things that you can afford to buy, but it’s the things that you can just gift, knowing that you made it out of love. And, you know, one thing about her is just she used to always say, you know, you’re always into your truck. You’re always into your audio, all that stuff. You know, can we do something together? And she was right. You know, she she taught me a lot, you know, and whoever has her, man, that dude’s a lucky guy because she didn’t expect me to waste money or spend money. But at least at some point, I’ve got to be able to, you know, treat her whether it’s making something at home, you know, to, you know, my wife’s credit. She’s the same way. We can just have steaks. We can do whatever. We don’t have to go out. But it’s a date, and that’s the biggest thing is it’s a date, right? And Valentine’s is a special day, so why not make it an opportune time whether you have money or not? I mean, if you can only afford the fish filet, then guess what? You’re getting the fish filet.
SPEAKER 12 :
Well, but he just touched on that fifth love language that we neglected, quality time. So, yes, quality time doesn’t cost a thing. But, yeah. Yeah.
SPEAKER 11 :
And you go out of your way, though. I mean, it’s not just like, yeah, I showed up. It’s Valentine’s. Let’s get that on, right?
SPEAKER 12 :
But I wanted to try that. But I wanted that ratio. So he said 64% of men in America are going to buy flowers. So you three are all going to buy flowers?
SPEAKER 11 :
Yes.
SPEAKER 12 :
I’m going to buy a rose. Yes?
SPEAKER 04 :
Yeah.
SPEAKER 12 :
All right. So yeah, I’m the odd man out. I’m not buying it. And I’ve told you guys this before. My wife doesn’t care for flowers. A, the animals in our house will probably eat them. And if you get flowers that are poisonous, it’ll kill them. So that wouldn’t be a very good happy time. And B, they die. So it’s almost more of a representation of death than it is of life. So I take pictures of flowers at like… Which is essentially back to stealing. People, if I’m at like a King Soopers or a Safeway and I see some pretty bouquet of flowers, I’m going to take that picture. I send that to my mother, my sister, my wife. It’s the thought account. Yeah, I send the flowers. And they’re like, Oh, pretty.
SPEAKER 11 :
Yeah. I wonder what a caller would say. I mean, any of the lady callers. Yeah, good. Call at 303-477-5600. 80% of all men will spend around $196 on Valentine’s.
SPEAKER 03 :
Ain’t happening here. Almost $200. And the reason why I think so is because we are programmed as men to have to celebrate this day. But here’s the question I want to ask you. Do women have to celebrate Valentine’s for you?
SPEAKER 11 :
It definitely seems like the man is the one that obligated or the male significant other type or whatever. You know what I’m saying? It’s a good question. The question I want to know is how much does it cost to do a blood transfusion nowadays?
SPEAKER 03 :
I mean, if you think about it, guys, and I’m trying to – we’re trying to home in on guys and help them with Valentine’s Day because I think Valentine’s is more than just the flowers and the candy and all that, especially for guys who are living life trying to make it day by day.
SPEAKER 11 :
Yeah, I get what you’re saying because that is tough, man, because, you know – The failure of most of men is that we don’t tell how we really are feeling, right?
SPEAKER 10 :
Oh, that’s cheap.
SPEAKER 11 :
We just don’t. You know, when life is happening, it’s easy to, you know, you have, you know, a camaraderie of people that are close to you that you can actually really talk to, but eventually you start shutting yourself down. So, I mean, we do really sacrifice a lot. And some of them are a lot of those women, too, that sacrifice, too. You know, they got it the other way around. You know, sometimes they’re the breadwinners in the home.
SPEAKER 12 :
serious not just the guys but i think women talk to each other where guys don’t guys have to be at a gym you know i’m talking about you know and it’s simple one word phrases how’s life sucks you just start lifting right he’s he’s right though man um it wasn’t until i started eating more soy um and and tofu that i became a soy boy and i started getting you know a little bit more uh in touch with my feminine side and uh talking and conversing about my emotions and And, yeah, it’s off-putting to most women. But my wife loves it.
SPEAKER 03 :
And if y’all know better than us, call at 303-477-5600. Because, look, guys, there’s people that have been married for 40 or 50 years, and they probably don’t even celebrate Valentine’s. They care less. They’ve been with their significant other so long that they’re thinking alike.
SPEAKER 12 :
You know the smart ones? Here’s the smart ones. Here’s the smart ones. Where they care about the holiday when it comes, but they don’t celebrate it when it’s here. What do I mean by that? They’re the ones who know that Valentine’s or Christmas or any of these are going to be here, but they only buy the stuff after it goes on sale the next day. So they celebrate on the 15th.
SPEAKER 03 :
So I guess my question to you guys is, do you think every guy should go out and buy flowers? You say no.
SPEAKER 11 :
Nah.
SPEAKER 03 :
I say yes.
SPEAKER 11 :
Like I said, whether it’s a rose or a bouquet.
SPEAKER 04 :
What do you say, Brian? Depends on how often you’re giving her flowers. You should be giving her flowers once a month. Is that what you do? No.
SPEAKER 03 :
He will give us a call on the other side at 303-477-5600. We’ll talk to you on the other side.
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SPEAKER 03 :
How’s everybody doing today? This is the second half of the Guy’s Perspective show. You can always call at 303-477-5600. We’re talking about Valentine’s. We’re talking about love. Call in and tell us if you think that today is the day or Valentine’s Day next week, next Saturday is the day when you absolutely should do something. It says love is the most fundamental and universal human emotion. If you don’t have love, you’re really not a human being.
SPEAKER 04 :
bean oh it said what it’s about says love yourself so you already love yourself
SPEAKER 03 :
What are you going to get yourself for Valentine’s? Some Marlotion.
SPEAKER 12 :
Sorry. It’s true.
SPEAKER 03 :
Maybe a Kit Kat. People, we were saying that. A Kit Kat? On the first half of the show, people were saying that Cupid will at one time shoot every single person. Everybody will fall in love eventually. And I know we disagreed on what love really means. What about friendships? Yeah, that’s a good one. You could have a best friend that you absolutely love. That’s funny you said that. The Bible said David loved Jonathan like he loved himself.
SPEAKER 04 :
Do you think that you could find love in the book of Solomon’s? Songs of Solomon. It’s probably littered in there, I think.
SPEAKER 11 :
We’ve talked about that in the past, how you can throw some of those songs out there and just bring it into modern vernacular, or even just keep it like the old King James or whatever. Yeah. Man, there’s some really good stuff in there.
SPEAKER 04 :
Oh, yeah. But to all my listeners, I mean, I just want to say, you know, listen, get rid of the flowers. Get rid of the candy. That’s played out, right? That’s been done year in and year out. What if their wife loves it? No, it doesn’t matter. Listen, it doesn’t matter if your woman loves that. Go get her some chocolate and some flowers tonight. On Valentine’s, you know what you’re going to do? You’re going to take the advice of the janitor of love. You’re going to make her a dinner. You’re going to cook because you probably don’t do a whole lot of cooking, right? So she’s going to come home. You’re going to be at the kitchen. You’re going to be whipping up, you know, pasta of love. You understand? And then you’re going to put on her favorite movie, right? Whatever movie that is, funny movie, make it clean, right? Cook her some dinner, put on her favorite movie, and give her the massage of her life. And that will cover all your bases. And you might get lucky.
SPEAKER 03 :
If you’re married. And what about the guy who’s got to pay mortgage because it’s behind in credit cards and car payments and they’ve got to work overtime on Saturday?
SPEAKER 11 :
Well, get him some SpaghettiOs, self-made.
SPEAKER 12 :
SpaghettiOs.
SPEAKER 03 :
I mean, guys, you see what I’m saying? Like, Valentine’s is so commercialized and we’re for the guys. And I’m sticking up for the guys that are turning around, struggling to make it. And now all of a sudden, like he said, go out and buy dinner, give them a massage, put on the movie. But for the dude who just worked 15 hours on an oil rig and he comes home, why shouldn’t his woman do that for him? Oh, man, we got quiet. We got quiet. Real quiet. Yeah, dude. We got quiet. No, that’s real talk because it’s real life, dude. Valentine’s is a mythical made-up thing where Cupid, Eurost, the god of love and sexuality goes by and shoots people left and right. Hormones are going. Those endorphins are flowing. You know what I’m saying? But for us four who have to pay bills nonstop, it makes you really wonder. Can you celebrate Valentine’s on Sunday instead?
SPEAKER 12 :
You could probably celebrate anything any day because the Lord said that… I’m kind of stomping you boys.
SPEAKER 03 :
No, no, no. No, you know what?
SPEAKER 12 :
Go ahead. I was just saying that no holidays really matter. No special days really matter. And you certainly shouldn’t use a special day to redeem yourself for a whole year of screwing up.
SPEAKER 11 :
That’s true.
SPEAKER 12 :
That’s true.
SPEAKER 11 :
That’s really good. You probably won’t get too far if you’re doing that. I was just wondering about like, you know, those four hymns and those Viagra pills. I bet you there’s an uptick, man. If I was putting money in, like investing in there, I bet you there’s just an uptick around this holiday. Oh, you know, that’s a trillion dollar industry.
SPEAKER 03 :
Probably every day of the year, though.
SPEAKER 11 :
Probably an uptick turned out before Valentine’s, man. Yeah.
SPEAKER 03 :
I mean, but think about that. Like you guys asked a question about like friendship and things like, well, a love kid is, you know, Is love exclusive just to a guy and his woman? Or we mentioned earlier, like, your parents. Like, can you give your mom flowers on Valentine’s? And Brian was like, no, scratch that. But last year you said you did.
SPEAKER 04 :
No, it was maybe I did.
SPEAKER 03 :
Guys, I’m telling you right now, if my mom came back from the dead, I’m giving her some flowers, bro. Maybe that’s out of joy. Maybe that’s out of, you know, I don’t know. I don’t know.
SPEAKER 04 :
Maybe I might give my mom a flower on Valentine’s because if she doesn’t have anybody and you feel sorry for her, make her feel the moment of love.
SPEAKER 11 :
You got a good point. Maybe this is the day for people that maybe aren’t having the best of time in their lives. Maybe this is a good time to try to encourage them.
SPEAKER 03 :
Oh, hey, what’s up, Truth Daddy? Tell us, is Valentine’s Day just a ploy? Is it commercialized?
SPEAKER 09 :
You know, it is a ploy. This is the side for what women get. I mean, they do have a bunch of holidays, you know. and stuff like that. It spends you more money, like, on guys like The Truth, you know, on his fake girlfriend or me on his mom. What in the world? Guys also have their own Valentine’s Day kind of thing, you know? Anything that deals with barbecue and stuff like that. Oh, nice. Memorial Day. So we have our valentines and girls get their valentines.
SPEAKER 03 :
That’s a good point. Thanks for calling, buddy. Thank you. Thanks for calling. Dude, did you hear? That’s something we never thought about as guys. Thanks for calling, True. He’s saying guys have… Their day, like, 4th of July are barbecues, so why shouldn’t a woman have a day specific to her? That’s a good point.
SPEAKER 12 :
So now he’s saying that Valentine’s has a gender and it’s female? Yeah.
SPEAKER 03 :
But you know what? That’s what I’ve been asking you guys. Is Valentine’s specific to a woman or to the woman?
SPEAKER 04 :
I think we’ve been programmed to, since we were young, I’ve always had to buy the girl something. I’ve never looked to receive something in return on Valentine’s. Even in elementary school? In elementary school, I did. In elementary, when I was a kid, I did. But as I grow older, it was always, what am I going to do for her? I’m not thinking to myself, what is she going to do for me?
SPEAKER 12 :
It wasn’t reciprocated. No.
SPEAKER 04 :
So I don’t know. So that’s why I was kind of stumped when you said that because I was like, man, women, maybe I should want something in return.
SPEAKER 11 :
Maybe if you got a crush. Remember when you were in elementary school, if that girl gave you a special Valentine’s, you kind of thought like, oh, I think she’s got a crush.
SPEAKER 03 :
She gots it for me. If your woman gives you a Valentine gift, are you less of a man? No. It’s a question, man. There’s guys out there that think all kinds of stuff, and you know what I’m saying? Are you less of a man if a woman turns around and commits to you on Valentine’s Day?
SPEAKER 12 :
I’m probably going to overdo it. I’m going to outdo what she bought me.
SPEAKER 01 :
Does that make sense? Oh, totally.
SPEAKER 12 :
I don’t know, because just like you feel like the man of the house, the breadwinner and all that kind of stuff. If you buy me an Apple Watch, I’m going to buy you an Apple Watch and a phone. Right, right. Or if you buy me a hamburger, then I’m going to buy you a whole meal. Yeah, a steak. Yeah.
SPEAKER 11 :
There you go. Cupid shot you with that arrow, buddy. She brings you a cow patty. What are you doing? I’m going to throw it at her. So for guys…
SPEAKER 03 :
How is Valentine’s going to make you feel when you wake up? Are you already going to have her a gift the day before? Are you going to wait until you get her something later that afternoon? Or is it Saturday? Are you doing it in the morning, afternoon, or night? I’m doing it the week before, bro. Oh, so you’re doing it today?
SPEAKER 04 :
Yeah, I’m doing Valentine’s every week. Okay. For the rest of my days.
SPEAKER 11 :
She’s coming over to your mom’s house, and you got the petals laid out?
SPEAKER 04 :
I’m going to give her Valentine’s every day, so when Valentine’s comes around, she don’t even think about it. She’s like…
SPEAKER 12 :
It’s just another day.
SPEAKER 11 :
Just another day. So if you skip it, she’s cool with it. Is Valentine’s International or is that more of a U.S. holiday?
SPEAKER 03 :
It is. Surprisingly enough, there’s a lot of other countries that celebrate the day of love, dude. You know what’s funny? I got a story about this. So my ex-wife, I turned around and that’s funny. We’re talking about this just came to my mind. I remember I was 21. I ended up buying her just, like, regular flowers. They weren’t roses. And I remember showing up, and I was like, hey, I got you flowers. Dude, she just threw that crap, like, in the trash. Wow. She was like, you better go back to the store and get something else. She told you that? Yeah, and I’ll never forget it. And now when I’m thinking about it, like, there’s some people – That they’re so diehard on Valentine’s Day. If you show up. It’s an offense. Yeah, it’s an offense.
SPEAKER 12 :
It’s an offense. Whoa.
SPEAKER 03 :
I mean, think about that. But that’s probably happening across America.
SPEAKER 12 :
Oh, you know so.
SPEAKER 03 :
And that’s what I’m saying. How does it affect men who don’t have a whole lot and they’re trying their best?
SPEAKER 12 :
I’ll tell you how it affects those men. If those men get treated that way, then all of a sudden you got to start looking at their bank card because there’s been multiple Valentine’s purchases for other women. They’re probably out there buying flowers for all kinds of ladies.
SPEAKER 03 :
No, he’s making a good point on that. Yeah. The work wife. Right, right. It just makes you really, really, really, really wonder, like, the stress level on men. And I know I keep coming back to the stress level, but it’s going to be really high on men on Saturday. I don’t think it’s going to be that high. I think so. Nope. What do you say? Well, you say you’re not buying anything.
SPEAKER 04 :
I’m absolutely not buying anything. Brian. So he…
SPEAKER 03 :
No stressful at all?
SPEAKER 04 :
No, not at all.
SPEAKER 03 :
You? No, not really. I mean, my wife’s pretty cool. Okay, so I’m the only guy who thinks about spending $80 on flowers. But it’s just because when you think about the cost of Valentine’s versus a regular day…
SPEAKER 11 :
Is it a return on investment? Are you thinking that the more money you spend, the better the investment?
SPEAKER 03 :
No, no, no, no, not at all. In a business sense? Not at all. What I think about is I think about they gouge guys nonstop. Because if you go and buy flowers right now, I bet you can get long stem roses for 12 bucks.
SPEAKER 12 :
But on the day of.
SPEAKER 03 :
On the day of. It’s going to be $80, dude.
SPEAKER 11 :
Yeah, that’s a scam right there.
SPEAKER 03 :
It’s a scam. I guarantee restaurants have, like, special dishes on that day. Because they know guys are going to be so stressed out, they’re going to be like, hey, dude, I better do something, otherwise I’m in the doghouse. But like you guys were saying, I guess if you do something every single day, it doesn’t matter. Okay.
SPEAKER 11 :
You know, but to those restaurants and all that, I mean, why not, man? I’m a business owner. I’m for making a profit. If I went to a restaurant, man, it would be a good Valentine’s Day, you know. Come to Advanced Pickle or whatever.
SPEAKER 03 :
Would you raise your prices? No, just be honest.
SPEAKER 04 :
Well, I’d have a special. Yeah, if I saw some suckers like you coming in.
SPEAKER 03 :
If I saw some suckers like you. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. For sure. And that’s how business, and that’s being honest. I saw you coming from a mile away. I think if I was a business owner and I had a restaurant and it’s Valentine’s,
SPEAKER 12 :
The price is going up, buddy. You know what’s funny, man? It just reminded me. I think it was last Valentine’s, the Valentine’s and the Mooch, because we did the show the week before. And on that day, on Valentine’s Day, my wife was working. She was busy. And so I went and had some sushi with my friend Nate, man. And so it was just two guys having a Valentine’s sushi dinner, man.
SPEAKER 03 :
Dude, that’s fishy.
SPEAKER 12 :
It was bananas.
SPEAKER 03 :
I mean, I just think that I think the day like candy. So most guys, I know you three are kind of like, oh, well, not really going to do a whole lot. But I still think it’s so stressful for guys because most guys are programmed, like Brian said, to make sure they do something for their significant other.
SPEAKER 11 :
Well, Brian’s woman beats him. So, you know, he better do something. Your woman beats you?
SPEAKER 04 :
Oh, man. Yeah. I don’t get her Valentine’s.
SPEAKER 11 :
You like that, don’t you?
SPEAKER 03 :
So next, should Valentine’s be an everyday thing?
SPEAKER 04 :
No, no, of course not. That’d be hard to do. That’d be super hard to do. And I’m the first person to tell you about romancing your woman nonstop. But that’d be, that’s a little. I think it kind of makes it die away. You know, when you tell somebody something, words of affirmation all the time, it kind of loses its sting. You know what I’m saying? Oh, yeah. You can’t use it all the time because it loses its sting after a while. She just gets used to it.
SPEAKER 03 :
I read a book, and maybe you guys have read it too. It’s like Minner from Mars and Winner from Venus. I read it a long time ago, and it said that if you skip Valentine’s, anniversary, Christmas, you’re almost guaranteed to be divorced.
SPEAKER 07 :
Wow.
SPEAKER 03 :
Almost guaranteed to be divorced. Because those days, even if she doesn’t say anything to you, it’s so significant and meaningful to her that if you skip the birthday, the anniversary, Valentine’s, and Christmas, even if you don’t get her that gift on Christmas. And hey, guys, I don’t know who’s out there listening to this, but I guarantee there’s a guy who didn’t get his woman something on Christmas and is going through a divorce right now. I guarantee there’s going to be a guy who doesn’t get his woman anything for about…
SPEAKER 11 :
there’s statistics oh yeah human nature it’s just statistics if her love i’m telling you if her love language is gifts and you don’t show up with anything you know my mom and dad have been together for over 50 something years in their 60 60 years and i’ve not known my dad i think that’s a cultural thing too because my dad does not give gifts Really?
SPEAKER 03 :
They’re still together. That’s funny. And I don’t ever quote scriptures on here. The Bible says it’s harder to win back a man who’s been offended than to take over a walled city. So if you offend your woman to where she absolutely, every time you walk into her, she’s like, I hate this dude. I can’t stand this guy. You’re getting a divorce, buddy.
SPEAKER 11 :
Seven times seven.
SPEAKER 12 :
What’s the other scripture? Is it better to dwell on the roof than on a house with a cantankerous woman? Oh, my God.
SPEAKER 03 :
I mean, think of how crazy that is, guys. I mean, if you turn around and you’re a woman, like, let’s say it’s communication, and all you do is pop open. Truth, what’s up, dude?
SPEAKER 09 :
Instead of reading that book, Men from Mars and Women from Venus and stuff like that, you need a roof. I read Shanzu, The Art of War.
SPEAKER 03 :
Oh, no, no, no, no. He’s right about that. The Art of War. Thanks for calling, buddy. No, no, no. Explain, explain. Yeah, explain. The Art of War talks about like… I know what it talks about. I just wanted to hear why. I’m trying to talk to… But what I’m trying to say is… If your woman has a specific love language and it’s communication and all you do is come home and open a Bud Light and never talk to her.
SPEAKER 04 :
That’s not a love language. Communication, that’s not a love language.
SPEAKER 03 :
Oh, I’m telling you, it is a love language. I promise you, communication is at the top of the very blue chain. No, that’s what you need to do to keep your marriage intact. Communication is a love language. It’s not. In and of itself. Yeah, it is. You honestly don’t think communication’s a love language? No, Brock, no. If this woman wants to be your best friend and talk to you every day and you ignore her, you think you’re going to be together with her?
SPEAKER 12 :
Hey, I’m on the fence, guys, because there’s the five love languages. There’s the five love languages, and one of them is quality time. Quality time can be communication.
SPEAKER 03 :
100% communication. Quality time is hanging out, bro. You’re not going to hang out with your woman without talking to her, dude.
SPEAKER 11 :
Dudes hang out with each other, you know?
SPEAKER 04 :
When I asked a lady, I said, what’s your love language? She’s not saying, oh, communication. Okay, okay, go through the love languages again.
SPEAKER 03 :
There’s acts of service.
SPEAKER 12 :
What is it? Acts of service. Then there’s physical touch.
SPEAKER 10 :
Physical touch.
SPEAKER 12 :
Yeah. There’s words of affirmation. Right. There’s gifts.
SPEAKER 03 :
Right.
SPEAKER 12 :
And… Oh, quality time.
SPEAKER 03 :
Right. Words of affirmation and quality time go hand in hand with communication.
SPEAKER 12 :
I see where you’re coming from. But to Brian’s point, it’s not one of the listed five. That’s what I was going to say. It’s the number one listed. It doesn’t say communication.
SPEAKER 03 :
Quality time is communication. We’re talking about the book, Brian. I mean, Brock. Okay, let me ask you. If you take a five-hour trip with your woman, you guys are hanging out. Let’s say you’re going to go to the Smoky Mountains. Hold on, hold on. I know where you’re going with this. You’re going to the Smoky Mountains. You’re going to have a good time with your woman. You’re going to sit in the car for six hours and not talk about it?
SPEAKER 12 :
I’m telling you, anybody who’s been in a relationship for a long time with somebody, they realize that there are, in fact, some times where silence is golden. Silence is golden at times. There are some times where it’s just, hey, we’re just cruising, looking around, really not talking at all, having a good time.
SPEAKER 11 :
Sometimes silence is golden, man.
SPEAKER 03 :
No, no, no, for sure. But that whole entire trip, like communication, I think communication is the backbone of what keeps a relationship together. It has to.
SPEAKER 04 :
it has to brian see i think i think quality time is your undivided attention to that person at that moment and if you want to talk fine if you see what i’m saying so that doesn’t mean you’re communicating the whole time whatever that undivided attention you’re giving to her at that moment then that falls under what you know if she wants to talk then you can talk if she wants to hug and cuddle Whatever it may be. That’s physical touch.
SPEAKER 03 :
And people call us at 303-477-5600. Tell us if we’re wrong. I think communication is the number one part of the five love language. But I could be wrong.
SPEAKER 12 :
I could be wrong. The one where I fail to do, and I should do this more, is writing notes to my wife. Because she really loves notes. Just simple notes. Because they’re intimate and personal. And it’s something she can hold on to.
SPEAKER 11 :
I think what’s kind of ruined the note-taking thing or the note thing is text messages. But now he’s just jotting down.
SPEAKER 03 :
But isn’t that still communication? It is. Because you can write out how you feel, your thoughts, because there’s some guys who they – and we’ll get right to Brian. Brian, go.
SPEAKER 04 :
So, Heath, what you’re telling me is your woman’s going to wake up for Valentine’s Day and she’s going to have some love notes on the mirror when she goes into the bathroom, right? Is that what I’m hearing? Probably so. Okay. Okay. Probably tomorrow.
SPEAKER 12 :
Probably tomorrow.
SPEAKER 11 :
So there you go. That’s communication. You know who taught us the worst, actually, is Al Bundy.
SPEAKER 10 :
If you watched… I mean, Peg was always… Yeah.
SPEAKER 11 :
I mean, how would you ignore Peg, you know?
SPEAKER 03 :
Guys, I honestly think that if you were to go in front of, like, a marriage counselor or anything like that… And I think that’s the reason why people do. It’s because I think that marriage counselor or that psychologist gets you to open up and talk. Makes it a safe place, too. Makes it a safe place, right. Because sometimes people who are so contentious with each other say hurtful things that once it comes out of your mouth, you ain’t taking it back, dude.
SPEAKER 12 :
But, yeah, when you have that mediator for those that need it, and sometimes things just get too far gone. That’s why there’s mediation for like – business dissolution or uh contractual things lawyers or i mean not lawyers uh landlords and leases yeah i mean there’s mediators people who help them explain their point and people if you’ve been married for a long time call at 303-477-5600 because i think communication is number one for valentine’s day if you’re going to know your woman’s love language ask her
SPEAKER 03 :
You have to, you have to, there’s nothing wrong with that. There’s, there’s nothing wrong with it. Yeah. But as guys, we think it is.
SPEAKER 11 :
I think, I think sometimes women think that too.
SPEAKER 03 :
I agree with that.
SPEAKER 11 :
They want you to read their mind and it’s like, Oh God, this is good, man.
SPEAKER 03 :
I just, I, Brian doesn’t think it’s part of the love language. He doesn’t think it’s part of love language. What do you think?
SPEAKER 11 :
I mean, it’s a part of love. I don’t think it’s a love language, according to the book. But, you know, communication ranks really high. I mean, if you’re not having any type of communication, then what in the world are you even doing together? Right, Brian.
SPEAKER 04 :
What in the hell are you even doing together?
SPEAKER 03 :
That’s deep, dude.
SPEAKER 04 :
I think communication is one of the main reasons people are getting divorced.
SPEAKER 03 :
Oh, my God. Dude, I wish we would have started with this.
SPEAKER 04 :
I think I talked about this last time where my friend had just got married, and they were like two years into the marriage, and they were at each other’s throats. Yellen’s not really communicating, though, is it? No. Yelling. Well, anyway, he goes to marriage counseling, and it was a simple solution. They talked about it. They communicated about it. And I talked to my friend. He said it was the easiest thing for them to reconcile, and they changed it.
SPEAKER 12 :
And they’re married today. I got a question for you, B. I got a question. How does one reconcile when you speak a different language from your lover? Yeah. Can two people communicate thoroughly when they have different native tongue?
SPEAKER 03 :
Guys, I think when it comes to Valentine’s, I think a man should sit down with his woman and say, hey, what is it that you want for Valentine’s? Do you just want me to be here? Do you want to go out? And I think she’ll be straightforward with you. Or offended. That’s the truth. He’s right. He could very well be offended. But at least you know at that point.
SPEAKER 12 :
I agree, man, because the problem is sometimes people want to be spur of the moment or ingenuity, come up with something. Yeah. But that’s not fair to the person who comes up with it if it gets slapped down. Like those flowers from your ex.
SPEAKER 01 :
Yeah.
SPEAKER 12 :
If that gets slapped down because you did your best and you got slapped down. I don’t know. I think it is…
SPEAKER 03 :
worthwhile to ask somebody what they want and you don’t have to ask them the day of you could ask them months in advance but but i guess that that works for christmas too i mean like instead of just winging it and saying oh i think this person likes that why don’t i just ask them what they want but because i think men are so like We’re inside. We look inside more than we voice our stuff.
SPEAKER 11 :
So think about this. Sometimes, I guess what we really should be looking at is throughout the whole year, there’s these little things that she looks at, right? There’s a scripture in the Bible where it basically talks about wherever God looks, that’s where I want to look. So whatever you’re looking at, God, that’s what I want to look at. I think if we’re with our significant others or whatever they look at, that’s probably something we should be looking at through the year. That way we’re not having to ask that question on… Because it… It sort of minimizes that effect when you’re basically asking a month or a few days from Valentine’s, like, hey, babe, what do you want? We should be able to look.
SPEAKER 12 :
If you’ve got a blind woman and she’s always bonking into walls and doors and stuff like that, what are you going to get her? Glasses, man. Glasses.
SPEAKER 03 :
I mean, honestly, guys, if there’s no communication in a relationship, how can it survive?
SPEAKER 11 :
How can it?
SPEAKER 03 :
I’m just, I’m mind boggled that we don’t think communication is at the top.
SPEAKER 04 :
I wouldn’t be communicating her about, you know, what she wants for Valentine’s Day.
SPEAKER 03 :
Well, what would you communicate to her about?
SPEAKER 04 :
You should already know her love language.
SPEAKER 03 :
No, that’s what I’m saying. Not every guy knows his woman’s love language. How can you not? Because he’s not communicating. He’s not opening up and talking and saying, hey, this guy, man, I wish we had another hour on this show, man. This is deep. People call it.
SPEAKER 11 :
And we’re talking about love languages. If you don’t know about love languages, there’s a book called The Five Love Languages, right? So check it out, I guess. It’s a really good book.
SPEAKER 03 :
Yeah, no, no, no, excellent book. I still believe that quality time, words of affirmation, or communication, and I think it’s at the top. I know you guys disagree with me, but… I didn’t say I disagree. I think it’s… Because I think, look at it. Wars, wars can be prevented off of communication. Divorces can be stopped off of communication.
SPEAKER 04 :
Or lack thereof. I guess what I’m trying to say is if I’m communicating with my woman, I’m not falling madly in love because we’re talking.
SPEAKER 03 :
How do you figure you’re not? You’re opening up your heart and becoming vulnerable. Dude, listen, if you truly love that girl, and this is for every guy listening, if you truly love your woman, you’ll open up and be vulnerable because if you’re not willing to be vulnerable, it’s never going to happen.
SPEAKER 04 :
I just think communication is for direction. Like if something’s going bad in our relationship, they say, you communicate what’s going on, what’s wrong.
SPEAKER 03 :
Is there a psychologist out there that can come on our show next week? Well, we’re out of time. See y’all later.
SPEAKER 08 :
Man, God, I wish we had more time with this. Thanks so much. I don’t expect you to understand. I just hope I can explain what it’s like to be here.
SPEAKER 06 :
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